5 years ago on April 10th, we said vows to each other, not knowing what would actually come our way. We have had sickness(a few life threatening Man colds) and for me; a few surgeries, procedures and hospital stays. But overall, we have woken up with our health. We’ve had joy, A LOT of it, but we’ve had sorrow too. Ugly cry-shriveled tissues-don’t want to get off the couch sorrow.
We’ve been poorer. Like the time a few months into our marriage, I asked Dan if we were too poor to buy chocolate chips, to make cookies. And we’re richer now than then because my husband has worked REALLY stinkin’ hard over the past few years.
When you say your vows, you really don’t know in what form they will come. You don’t know until it happens, whatever “It” may be. Its easy to vow to something you haven’t gone through yet. 5 years ago, it was just a promise, but those vows mean more to me now than they did then, because we’ve had opportunities to live them out. To be faithful, to be kind, to encourage, to forgive. And to apologize for the time you called him practically in tears because you needed to be somewhere and it had just rained/snowed for 5 days straight in NJ, your hair is wet and literally turning to icicles, you only have one glove, the car is a block of ice/ snow and you are SERIOUSLY pissed because he is cruising in the car you already dug out days before and he locked the shovel in the jeep, which he has the key to. So, in desperation you get a giant meat fork from your kitchen and start hacking away at the ice because you WILL defeat Mt. Everest, all while the neighbors are shielding their kids from you and he’s trying to help you on the phone. He’s telling you to “use your words,” but you are having NONE of it because whyyy didn’t he leave the shovel for you and whyyy isn’t he there to help.
A purely hypothetical situation, of course. But lets say that did happen, you have an opportunity to say, “Sorry, I had a meltdown. I think I was just really hungry.” And he has an opportunity to forgive you and never again bring up the day you tried to murder that demon car with a meat fork for being stuck.
You don’t know what you’ll face in life, you just choose the person you want to face them with, for better or for worse. Happy Anniversary husband, I’m happy you chose me.